Borderline

[qaushinio]

Hey guys, I wanted to ask if you guys ever experienced a relationship with a borderline girl/boy.

I'm in a realationship for 3 years now, She is pregnant and shehas borderline It's exhausting and hard. I dont know how to deal with her self distruction wile she keeps cutting arms and well.. it hurts me eigther tthe way it does hurt her. Any solutions? And no I wont break up.

 

[Joshuadaman]

I don't quite understand what you mean by borderline.
& either she can be cutting for pleasure (yeah people think it feels good .. ?) Maybe she has some problems that she can't get out, and needs dealt with/help, from either you, her parents, or maybe psychiatric help, or maybe a little bit of it all.

 

[qaushinio]

well shes in a therapy for a few months, not getting forward. Borderliners Manipulate you. They lie and do everything to get you under theyre controll, on the other hand they do everything to not loose you

 

[Joshuadaman]

Hmm .. well if she's very controlling .. lying .. etc, than it's not a healthy relationship.
I'd personally take a break (not break up) and eventually she'd learn if she wants to be in a relationship with you, she has to cool of the bullshit ya know.

 

[qaushinio]

she had a suicide apply already.. Curious if she would do it eventho she's pregnant.

 

[Joshuadaman]

Ouchhhhhhhhhhh.
Man, than that's a really hard one to deal with ..

 

[qaushinio]

Probably a bad idea of mine to share this with the ot community. Lets see when I'm gonna get the 1. pm's about Lol noob

 

[R3ignlasting]

How to Stop Cutting Yourself: 14 steps - wikiHow

Pretty interesting tutorials can be found on there. Present this to her.

 

[Cornex]

I understand what you deal with, and wish you good luck..

 

[qaushinio]

Thanks guys.. Shes in therapie at the moment with a few other girls. The problem is that if she gets those " cutting and fuck my life" attacks I cant do anything as it mixed with the typical pregnancy fuck my live periods.. lets see if it helps