I don't know if this was main reason, but I discoverd my modem was shut down every 2-5 minutes, and after some checking around I saw my power-net was overheated that so many stuffs was sharing the same power-line.
so I shut everything down, all computer, Tv and screens including stereo..
and re set up everything, I fixed so I can use another power line so it wont go overheated again, so the computers aren't using same power net, or the modems, it should be balanced now and hopefully that was the main problem..
I getting server running now within a few minutes, but be careful..